The Right to Be You

Assertiveness Training Course

(includes coaching and after course support)

Duration: 2 Days Live Training

When? 12th & 13th April

Times: 10am - 6pm

Where: Edinburgh

Who Is This Course For?

Do you listen to other people before yourself and make your choices based on their opinions and do what they want you to do (even though you don't want to.)

Do you let people treat you like a doormat, trampling over your feelings and opinions, and you say nothing?

Do you find yourself shying away from conflict, or at the other end of the scale using aggressive behaviours to put your point across to get your personal needs met?

Perhaps you feel that you are never really listened to (that other people in your life don't really hear what you say or how you feel.)

Maybe you have been the victim of another person manipulating and bullying behaviour (luring you into their way of thinking and what they want, leaving a pretty bitter taste in your mouth when you realise you've been used.)

How about at work, do you sit back and 'take the flak' when you know that the other persons behaviour is unjust and unfair.

Yes?

Assertiveness. The right to be you. 

The right to say what you mean and own what you say.

The right to express your wants, wishes, needs and desires.

The right to make mistakes and not fear any consequences or backlash.

The right to say no.

Left unchecked, a lack of assertiveness could leave you with a lot of unwanted emotions and behaviours (but your probably already know this):

• lack of confidence
• lack of self worth
• lack of self respect
• lack of a positive self image

Can you relate?

A couple of years ago I worked with Claire.

When I first met her she 'appeared' assertive and confident. Yet as time went on she started to ‘leak’ little pieces of information about her life. 

Over to Claire (in her words)...

"I used to pretend all the time that I was okay that I was someone who could handle anything, to everyone else I was ‘bubbly Claire’ yet inside and at home I was a wreck.

My (then) partner was a bully…he never was physical or anything I just couldn’t go anywhere, see anybody or do anything on my own without him calling me or texting me asking where I was. 

(Aside: this is bullying, manipulation and control...I needed to jump in there, Dawn)

I couldn’t say what I wanted to say without them judging or belittling me. I wanted to keep the peace.

I was a pushover at home.  Looking back now I can see that I always just went along with everyone else, even as a little girl I would be the one who would do things to please others, I’d feel guilty if I let family down or friends.  I said yes to everything.  I didn’t know I was unassertive I thought this was how everyone was’

What Exactly Is Assertiveness?

So many people have heard of the word 'assertiveness' but have it all jumbled up and confused with aggression or manipulation.

Assertiveness is neither of those.

It's about your rights as a human being. It's all about you being able to express your wants, needs and feelings honestly and not being worried about the consequences for doing so. 

AND...the second part you allow others have these same rights.

It’s a way of communicating, behaving, and it’s deep – it does include your emotions, responses and reactions. It’s a knowledge of promoting your best interests (and helping others promote theirs) it's a set of personal development skills once learnt, will never leave you.

It enhances your confidence, builds your self esteem, increases your awareness of the world around you, improves your self respect and worth, you become that person who people feel they can be themselves around.

Do You Need This Course?

Here's what you'll cover:

The true meaning of assertive behaviour (what it is and what it's not)

How to spot when you are being manipulated, bullied (there are common behaviours and words that these people use...from now on you will be able to nip it in the bud before they start to break you down.)

How to respond assertively to anyone who is taking away your rights...what to say, how to say, how to respond, use even one of these and you will no longer have to defend yourself.

How to be you FIRST, explore and identify the reasons behind WHY you need to seek approval from other people, if that's a problem (once you've done this, you'll be changing life long beliefs that no longer serve you.)

How to be assertive at work (yes this is one area of life we cannot overlook - you spend 8 hours plus there every week day.) It's no fun going to work where there are aggressive and manipulative individuals (they will probably never admit their behaviour...this session will show you how to respect them and stand up for yourself at the same time.)

How to become a person who takes full accountability, responsibility and ownership for your life about how you feel

Understand the negative impact when you say 'you/they/he/she made me feel...' (the truth is no one can make you feel anything without your consent, you make yourself feel...always.)

How to handle and work with people who have knowledge of your 'emotional hot buttons' (you know the ones they press to get you to do what they want...by the time we are done you will not give this away anymore.)

How to say what you mean (no more covering up for the fear of feeling guilty or deliberately hurting another human being) and owning what you say.

How to promote ‘you’: that you are a human being first with wants, wishes and desires that are independent of any other roles you play in your life and learn how to help others promote themselves...one of the keys to becoming an assertive person is empowering others.)

How to say no and yes to request made of you, independent of what others think and would like you to do (you can finally stop feeling guilty...you have the right to decline.)

How to ask for what you really want and need (and be okay when the other person says no...you will learn how to not be dependant on other people to fulfill what you want and need emotionally.)

Your assertivness rights a basic list of rights that will continually keep you on track to becoming an assertive person.

How to go for what you want and be successful. This not a right reserved for the chosen few!

How to not beat yourself up emotionally when you make a mistake and ‘get it wrong’. And what to say to people who are hell bent on showing you where you failed!

How to ask for privacy and space and receive it (with friends, family, children)...'you-time' and 'time out' is just not reserved for children!

How to make your own choices, decisions and opinions.

How to change your mind (it's your right) and not feel guilty or manipulated by others.

How to help other people become assertive.

Understand the difference between passivity, assertiveness, aggression and manipulative behavious – how to spot when someone is using them on you and when you are using them on others

Here's What's Included:

Pre Course Coaching Call - before the live event, you and I will spend half an hour via phone in a precourse coaching call. Why? So I can tailor the course to you and others in the room. This is not a 'off the shelf' training course. (You may also 'save' this and use it after the event.)

A Two Day Live Workshop - the workshop is written in a way so that you are not only learning the information, tools and techniques, you are actually applying them. Prepare yourself for two full days of learning and doing. You will be practicing the learning.

Two 60 minute Live Teleseminars After Event - this part of the course is vital. These teleseminars are made from your own home via phone. On a specific date and time, we will all spend 60 mins together to answer any questions from the live event, gain further support and guidance.

How Much is This Assertiveness Course?

Your total investment of £247.00 includes the pre (or after) course coaching call, 2 day live workshop, materials, refreshments, lunch and post course support teleseminars.

You're Given Right Assertiveness Training Course

12th/13th April £247.00

You'll be taken to a secure payment page. None of your payment details are shared between paypal and dawnbarclay.com

Reasons Not To Book!

This workshop is not for you if you're just looking for information on 'how to be assertive', with respect, you will be able to find this online for free.

This workshop is about learning the 'how' and applying it. That means practice, are you willing to try out tools and techniques?

There are courses that will teach the theory. It's my aim that by the time you are through your course, you're confident in applying all that you have learned. The 'training room' is not a real environment, the real application will come when you apply your new behaviours in your world. Hence, why I include the after course calls.

I would hate for you to say 'oh, it was useful'. It's my aim to help you reach the statement 'I am an assertive person', and mean it!

If you have any questions please feel free to contact me.